An Interview with Carla – A Femdom Specializing in Findom

It all began with my last boyfriend, one day when he told me that his fantasy was to pay me to humiliate him. At first I thought it was very strange, but then I wondered if other men had the same fantasy as him. I searched a bit on the internet and I very soon learned the name for this fetish: findom (“fin” for financial, and “dom” for domination). In other words, it means being humiliated or belittled by a financial dominatrix (also called a findom) in exchange for money or gifts. It doesn’t necessarily involve sex.

That’s when my personal life evolved to having a more dominant sex life and wanting to become a dominatrix. I decided to adopt this seductive and alluring way to earn money in which you humiliate men and demand money from them. When I started, some men regularly paid my rent, gave me gifts, and paid my various expenses without any sexual favours. However, after a few months, I realized that I wanted more. It wasn’t necessarily greed, but more of a desire to be in control.

Then I started to watch a show about webcam girls. It was obvious to me that this would be my future job. I immediately closed my tab and opened another, on Google, to find sites upon which I could soon start my new job as a webcam girl.

I talk about sex everyday of my life. I also make love almost all the time. For me, being in front of the camera in the comfort of my own home while making money seems natural. I don’t play a character on-screen; I remain myself as I am in my real life.

As a feminist, I’m also not interested in creating a misogynist environment. My “room” is a safe place for me and for my clients. Being a webcam girl has expanded my sexuality, improved my understanding of my body, and has strengthened my self-esteem.